GULP….. so here we go…
As most of you know, I’m on a journey – a journey to become sober. Definition of sober: showing no excessive or extreme qualities of fancy, emotion or prejudice. I am Tammy Lanham and I am addicted to food. I’ve been sober for 10 days.
I use food as a drug. I began my journey on Tuesday, 1/18/11 with a call to my life coach Brian Osher. Brian has coached me in growing Tammy Lanham Images and he was the first one I thought of when I finally admitted I needed help. What made me realize I needed help? In a clothing store, as I tried on clothes, my 7 year old daughter sneered her nose & said in disgust “Mommy, your legs are fat.” She never, ever says stuff like that so I knew it was sincere. And a shattered Mommy fell into a thousand little pieces on the ground (figuratively).
Then, on Friday, 1/21/11, I had my first fall off the wagon experience… yep, just 4 days into my journey, I messed up. What a role model I am, huh? I took my husband out to eat at CiCi’s (a pizza buffet) restaurant for his birthday. I felt miserable. The very next day, I did it again – I ate way too much for dinner and wanted to puke. I honestly believe I would be bulimic if I didn’t despise throwing up so much. That feeling after you eat too much is just awful – not just the physical misery but the emotional disappointment you feel in yourself.
With much thought and prayer, I felt like I needed to get additional help. If I was going to use AA terms like “sober” and “falling off the wagon” then I needed to find some positive AA –type solutions. I read online about sponsors in AA:
“A sponsor is someone who has been where we want to go in our twelve step program and knows how we can best get there. Their primary responsibility is to help us work the 12 steps by applying the principles of the program to our lives. They lead us by example as we see how the program works in their lives through sharing their personal experiences and stories of where they were and where they are now. We start to learn how to become sober by listening and doing the footwork that our sponsor shows us on a daily basis. In time we make these new changes a habit which helps us to remain sober one day at a time.”
If alcoholics have sponsors for their addictions, I can have one for mine, right? So I thought about my amazing cousin Terri Newcomb. I honestly think we were sisters separated at birth. We have children about the same age, similar personalities and outlooks on life and even our parenting styles are similar. She has fought a weight battle for 6 years and is staying thin and healthy. When I read “they lead by example” on the sponsorship definition, I thought of Terri. She is an extremely caring woman who will not hesitate to kick my rear end into gear if I need it. I knew she would be the person to ask. And I was right. This past weekend, I almost had a melt down while grocery shopping for a big family meal I was preparing on Sunday. I wanted to prepare Ding Dong cake for dessert – but I didn’t think I could handle having the Ding Dongs in my house. I was literally shaking. Terri walked me right through that temptation and I walked out of the store with Jell-O and peaches instead.
And then I found another role model of sorts – Tom Hailey. Tom has recently been through the weight loss factory and came out at the end of the line looking and feeling amazing. He posted photographs of his scale periodically. I thought “Oh my gosh – that’s crazy. I could never do that.” Then my friend Shaina Nailleaux posted her weight yesterday on her blog… so I guess the peer pressure got to me! Hehe…. Or I’m delirious but here I am posting my weight…
I began this year on January 1st at two hundred four pounds. I began this journey on January 18th at two hundred one point eight pounds. Today, February 1, 2011, I weighed in at one hundred ninety six point four pounds. I’ve got a long way to go – I’m not setting any long term goals. My goal is to get through today. Once today is over, I will move forward to tomorrow. I know I am comfortable around one hundred fifty pounds. Each day, I will make decisions that will affect tomorrow in a positive way and help move me closer to one hundred fifty pounds. I will succeed. Anybody want to join me? I challenge you to join me on this journey. Sign up to follow this blog. All you have to do is put your email address in the blocks to the right and you will get an email when I post a new thought. Friend me on Facebook and let’s do this together. I have no idea what I’m doing – I’m just trying to do this one step at a time. Let’s do it together!